The Cookout Contribution Etiquette That You Should Always Follow

It's officially cookout season when grills get dusted off and patios are prepped for long summer evenings — we can almost hear the clink of glasses and the ripple of laughter drifting from backyard to backyard. If you love a cookout as much as we do and want to be the kind of guest who always scores a repeat invite, you're in luck, we asked the experts for contribution etiquette that you should always follow.

First up, the golden rule of cookout etiquette: Be on time. "It's the single most important piece of etiquette. Arriving when you say you will is your first chance to show respect for your host," says Heather Morrison, the hospitality director and co-owner of Denver's Restaurant Olivia. Nick Leighton, an etiquette expert and co-creator of the "Were You Raised By Wolves?" podcast, agrees that timing is everything — especially since it relates to what you should bring. 

Ideally, guests who always arrive early can opt for a dish that requires assembly or a drink that needs to be chilled. "If you arrive later, you'd be better off bringing something that's ready to roll, such as desserts, simple sides, or bags of ice," Leighton told Tasting Table. Of course, life happens. But, communication is key. "If you know you won't be able to arrive early, let your host know," Morrison advises. 

Your contribution should feel like it belongs, not like an afterthought. Morrison advises keeping your host's needs front and center. You want to bring something the host needs, not something that creates more work for them. "When you RSVP, ask what would truly complement their vision for the evening," she says. "Offer three thoughtful options: a drink, a dish, or even a small decorative touch." Reaching out before the event is a small gesture that speaks volumes, showing your effort to contribute meaningfully. 

As for what exactly to bring? Morrison says to be considerate, but keep it simple. "Find out about dietary restrictions or allergies — never assume — and avoid anything that's complicated, messy, or awkward to serve. Nobody wants to juggle something sloppy or difficult in front of a group," she shares. A veggie platter that will wow all of your friends or rich pasta skewers that require minimal effort are guaranteed hits that are both easy to serve and enjoy.

Being a great cookout guest is about more than just what you contribute, it's also about showing appreciation. "Bonus points given if that's in the form of a handwritten note," says Leighton. When in doubt, fall back on the timeless rules of etiquette: be punctual, considerate, and gracious. Don't forget to have fun, either. After all, that's what cookouts are about.